One of my good friend's "Life's Mottos", with the assumption that there is something going on in your relationship...

If a guy wouldn't acknowledge you as someone he likes/loves in public, this arse is NOT worth your time

But, with that being said,
if the arse were "THE PLAYBOY OF THE YEAR", or the likes of it

... shouldn't you be worried?

Current MSN Nick: skibberdewinkkedinkkidink skibberderwinkkidoooo I love you!

The male Psyche?

You think like a man...
... you are like a man in a woman's body.

You give off a "ManEater" vibe... you will tame and domesticate him.

*faint

So how many times have I heard such things...
ALOT, seemingly.


WHY? ..Please someone explain to me!

• I'm very much homophobic;
• I definitely prefer men (confirm stamp chop guarantee!);
• I definitely hope to settle down and have my own kids... someday (but thats another issue all together - Where is that man?)
• Surely you can tell, Chinfee is biologically a woman
• And I like all the stuff that girls like - fairy tales, lovey dovey happy ever afters (I am a Sucker for Romance) ,cosmetics, and being anal about how my nailpolish looks, yoga, dancing, fit and muscular looking blokes, intelligence, Dressing up, men that can take charge.. or yummy healthy looking male bods with delicious apparatus... ooohhh, laa laaaaa (Ooops, my specs seem to be a lil misted.... ok, too much detail for you... but you get the picture)

*Click here for Nude cutie pic story; & here for story on Butler boy pic

So what makes me so "man"?


Think about it this way - Man was made for woman, and Woman, for man. They are supposed to fit, nicely! No matter how one wants to put it (for eg Why men don't listen, and women can't read maps), eventually, Opposites still attract.

Thusly, If I did have a male psyche, am I supposed to be attracted to effeminate males?

like the handsome (?) Orlando Bloom.. So strong and powerful, quiet and manly..

-With long flowing blond hair-

Can't say for sure, if this pic is of a MAN, or of a manly blond bombshell, can ya?

Or Johnny Depp! As Captain Jack Sparrow!

um, or the weirder Willy Wonka..

Or, God Forbid... this.. disaster..

Guess who?
He can probably put on eyeshadow better than I can!

- see, if I ever went to church, and this was the case, I'd be praying... very feverently

OH GOD, PLEASE! NO!!!

Then again, at the rate I'm goin' .. with no REAL MAN in sight...
Maybe... I ought to think about it...

Current MSN Nick: j says: I think you should be a kept woman

"A woman who decides that she will never date a man who's attached (thats me, thou some fortune tellers I've met in my life might disagree...), and is determined not to cross that line (me, again), will probably never commit adultery (Hurray for that! I just hope its the same for my Future - none at present - partner). People who have affairs (tsk tsk, whether or not you're the one attached, or the 3rd party, eh?) tend to become narcissistic (sigh, why is it I feel that I know of such people..?). They only live for the pleasure of the moment and for instant gratification. They rationalise away the consequences and focus on their excitement and satisfaction.(You live your 'exciting' life, I live my HOPEFULLY Fulfilling relationship(s), we all stay friends :) - Perrrfect - . Just don't hit on me, or I'd be quite disgusted.)"

Dr John Van Epp

I read this a couple of days ago, and thought I'd post this up asap, lest I lose the magazine..
Herworld Jan2007: herworld feature - Party unfaithful

Good advice here: "Some people cheat because they are lousy characters - cheaters through and through. Others are good people who made bad choices, and put themselves on the slippery slope of adultery. ONce you figure out which one your man/ woman is, the decision - on whether to leave him or not - is an easier one to make."

Current MSN Nick: keyword: recoup // If you're happy & you know it, clap your hands - I'm not clapping.

Edited in (23May06):

Thought I'd just put up a note as to why I posted this Precious Moment/ Poem picture.

There was a time I knew this poem by heart.
And I chanced upon it on an old friend's "friendster profile" the day I posted it up.

This friend was one of those sparks that ignited a flame;
That flame was the cause of burning sensations; heart aches, and heart breaks.
however you want to put it
So we arrive at the term "old flame".

I am/was surprised to find it on this old friend's profile.
I wonder if he's alright.

---------------------------------------------------------



Current MSN Nick: ... growing up : Its time to replace the men in my life *weak grin* // andrew, i'm not a "playerette" & i can tell u why

50 Things Girls should Know about Guys:

Not that I'm a Guy...........

:D I'm really a shrewd spinster.... REALLY! :D

Swiped this off Sweet Leon!


1. Guys hate sluts.
Then whats with the double standards?

2. "Hey, are you busy?" or "Are you doing something?" - two phrases guys open with to stop from stammering on the phone.
PLEASE! Its more often a (sometimes Irritating) habit! Esp with the smooth-talkers.
Otherwise its out of.. courtesy?

(I'm being nice here; I'd use the word "habit", i.e. guys often use certain terms of endearment, like baby, honey, or anything inbetween - OUT OF HABIT, coz they cannot remember the girl's name. TOOT)

3. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
So... that would be their Moms...

4. Before they call, guys try to plan out a little about what they're gonna say so there aren't awkward pauses, but once he's on the phone he forgets it all and makes it up as he goes.
... *chuckle* Doesn't everyone? otherwise, CALL FOR WHAT!

5. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
Because of this, from now on, I expect every guy I smile at to check in to IMH - Institute of Mental Health. (This might prove tough for me thou.. I dont often smile, as I'm told)

6. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.
... ANNNYYTTHHHIINNNGGG?? Gee...

So did I notice you?

7. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest*. Unless they're goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.
>/ Same for us girls too, what!
* and what if that was a lesbian relationship?

8. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.
..... no comments. kinda ridiculous when some guys call us girls neurotics..

9. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.
no boyfriend, boo hoo *whine*
I need to be assured I'm Loved. "still" doesn't even play a part.

10. Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.
Why not?
(Even among friends...... isn't honesty & trust supposed to be a couple of many things that are the foundations of a fulfilling relationship? )

11. Guys get jealous easily.
.. ok, this i believe. unless they're not interested. yes yes.

or is it because I WANT to believe it.... hmmm...

12. Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.
... uhhuh.
doublestandardsdoublestandards

13. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.
>/

14. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
pity. coz thats only when they "really like"... nothing more..
anything further, and more often than not, some MCP traits follow.

15. Guys hate asking parents for money to buy girls presents. So they come up with ideas like saving their lunch money for a week. But it never works because guys are always hungry so they end up asking the parents for money anyway.
aah, past the stage.
I do know that most dont bother giving stuff after a while......
(shame on you!...... *snigger*)

16. Girls are guys' weaknesses.
sure sure...
and what about computers & gaming, and pool/ billards, sports like football, cars and all that nonsense?
If this were really true, then "guys are girls' weaknesses". - You wanna believe that?

17. Guys are very open about themselves.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA....

Physically Open, I'm sure!

18. It's good to test a guy first before you trust him. But don't let him wait too long.
point taken.
how long is long? (I really want to know this)

19. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
errr... so the point is?
(girls are guys' weaknesses)

20. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
.. Tsk... this is getting very annoying

21. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
-_- and then what.
You can name many guys you know..who tease MAAANNNYYY GIRLS at any one time - *deadpans* don't fake it.

22. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

*shakes head* Never experienced.
Any girls want to say "aye"?

23. Guys will brag about anything.
.. hhmm.. point to ponder

24. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. We rarely use beautiful. If a guy uses that, he likes you.
Reeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllyyyy.
(.. starts singin to myself: nobody likes me.... *switch* I'm Beautiful, Its True)

25. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.
I, think way too much. - What did I do?!

26. Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if 1 guy's confused, then we're all confused.
no contest.

27. Any guy could write out a rulebook or advice book for flirting, but no guy can write out a book about relationships.
"men are from mars, women from venus"
"he's just not into you"
.. err.. not quite my genre

28. Try to be as straightforward as possible.
ok.

29. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be mature and grown up.
the fella who wrote this- kudos to you

30. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.
hmm.. whats that supposed to be "stupid"?

31. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.
aah, no matter how much women talk abt work and family, the guy's personality is the key..

... DUH

32. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
... like i said, not my genre.
You're sterotyping!

33. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.
doesnt everyone in every other context?

34. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside.
PUI. if he is calm and laid back, he is calm and laid back.

35. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.
........right.

36. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
girls say aye...

37. Guys don't really have final decisions.
... OH REALLY!?

38. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.

39. If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.
...maybe.. but the crux of it all is that all men are assholes...

Praaaayy Telll, why do we love assholes so much? Arn't we all owners of one?

40. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.
.. yah, thinkin abt you, naked.

41. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
I know of some guys who feed on feebleness....... I wish I didnt.

42. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
... HAhahAHHAhAhA...
someone came to mind... but nevermind.

43. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
this line just doesn't sound right...

44. Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.
>/ i'm not sure who's on the "Loser" end.

45. Everything in moderation. Put on makeup, wear perfume. Just not too much.
i agree, i agree... moderation, balance.... whatever

46. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.
DUH.
"who was that chick you were with"
"I saw some hot chicks on bikes"
"Her boobs were lopsided!!"
....

47. Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.
irritating. its the same for both sexes, dude.

48. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.
its just like "why do we love assholes" - such questions plague the universe to its deepest depths, yew noe?

49. A guy would give his left nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.
hhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahahahahahahahaha
something else came to mind.....
something Wen said at JSB one sunday

*private joke*

50. No guy can handle all his problems by his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it.
ok. so.... gonna stay stubborn still?

*sigh*

Current MSN Nick: Years gone by & still Words don't come easily. But you can say Baby..

ok, i admit; this was for my own amusment, but turned out to be more silly..

The Quack Doctor said:

You are Love Sick.

You Nincompoop.

I am not love-sick.
I am sick of faking love.

Understand the Difference.

No wonder you're just a quack.

Current MSN Nick: .. Don't be an ass. It doesnt get you anywhere near the front.

I like peaches. Because everything is Peachy, when you eat Peaches!
It lasts all of 2 mins
till you get to the dark, cold, hard, shriveled up seed.

Fussy Lady. I KNOW.

I know what I want, mostly.
... in life, love, family, friends..
(comic relief: disregard anything to do with work)

But I wont tell you.

It will only spoil the fun.

Thats why I'm chin-chye & bo-chup.

If I wear my heart on my sleeve, you must be AN IDIOT not to know.

Yet I'm said to be ever so *cold* hearted.
Ice Maiden needs to open her heart.
If you're *lucky enough* to know me better.
You'll know that its true - which bit? I leave it to you.

Anyway, I'm not too keen on keeping a harem of men if I do open the doors.
(Mind you, I didnt say LEGS. Stop Dreaming.)

Just because I let pass one boo-boo doesnt mean I'll let pass another.
It'll just accumulate into something else.
*peace sign*

If there's any problem, I'm oblivious to it. (I hope)
*shrug
If there isn't, you're my best friend.

I dont mind meeting you, whether or not you want to meet me is another story.
Then again, whether or not I like you, now thats the deciding factor.
...I enjoy good conversation...
Alright, so long as it amuses me..

If you like me, you show it!
(I admit. chin-chye, bo-chup, and also a bit blur)
If I dont like you, you'll know it.

Simple, sweet, with a touch of fun.
Nothing too salacious, you dumbdumb!
Anything cliche, and you LAGI DUMB!

\(^-^)/ i'm an innocent ger \(^-^)/

Sensitive, Ok.
Sweet, OK.
Pig... There is only room for one.
All women say "SNAG", but they really are attracted to bad boys.
WHY?

I answer you.
Because if you're too snag, you're a WUSS.
We've got enough sensitivity and emotions to deal with.
..... PMS not enough for you?!

I end with a song...

You're my Honeybunch, Sugarplum
Pumpy-umpy-umpkin, You're my Sweetie Pie
You're my Cuppycake, Gumdrop
Snoogums-Boogums, You're the Apple of my Eye
And I love you so and I want you to know
That I'll always be right here
And I love to sing sweet songs to you
Because you are so dear

Sometimes we put up walls.
Not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.

Current MSN Nick: .. don't be an ass! on another note....famous amos cravings: Choc chip macademia!

*disclaimer: written in haste. never checked. also some cut and paste. (you think?)

my brother's christmas present

one of my cousins from m'sia came down earlier than the rest to spend some quality time with my brother.

These 2 clowns, whom we all thought were lan-gaming their time away.... actually did CHRISTMAS SHOPPING for the family!



THIS IS MY PRESENT!

*aaw, i was really touched.
coz, like i mentioned... this christmas doesnt feel like christmas..
and its 31-Dec, and it doesnt feel like the New Year is comin up..

what is wrong with me?
Mum thought it weird that i'm home more.. AND ALSO ON CELEBRATORY NIGHTS.. she said.. "I think you're ready to settle down", i.e. steady bf, and get married, and grandkids for her to play with!....

Anyway, when I was given my Christmas Present from my Brother, and Cousin, I was told that It's meant for my boyfriend to fill up.
My brother said that its for my 'allowance'..




YEP! FEED MONEY ONLY! ;p

Top 27 Things Guys Think Girls Should Know

I've got seen this list quite a few times...
always wondered how true it was to you men.. SG men at least...
and of course, added my own comments

*1. We're not as big of perverts as you think we all are.
-- haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahaha... REAAAAALLLLYYYYYY

*2. No matter what you say, your ex-boyfriend is an asshole.

*3. We like you to give us hugs and kisses sometimes too.

*4. Don't argue with us when we call you beautiful.

*5. Don't treat us like crap, what goes around comes around.
-- isnt this standard....

*6. We know you're pretty, that's one of the reason's we're going out with you.
-- uumm.... i dont really wanna say anything abt the prettygirl-uglyguy or uglygirl-prettyguy syndrom.. :p

*7. Don't go into detail about your period. It scares us. If you have cramps and we ask you what's wrong, just tell us it's that time of the month and nothing more.
-- sure not. Some guys actually know a GREAT DEAL abt this.... and can talk to me with a straight face! *salut*

*8. If you really liked us for us, you would let us think that our mustache, beard, or sideburns looked cool.
-- i HALF agree.. i'd accept it... but doesnt mean i think it looks cool. i may think its .. adorable...

*9. We never shave our legs. Get over it.
-- HAhahAHHAhA dont expect you to, dear

*10. NEVER ask us if you can put make up on us. It's just wrong.
-- dont bluff.

*11. Don't make bets about us, because one of your friends will tell us, if you don't.
-- and you guys shdnt do it too! *toot*

*12. When we tell you that you're not fat, believe us.
-- Yah, Bullocks. its the same thing as long hair or funky sideburns.... love the person for who he/she is.

*13. We absolutely do not care about, The Backstreet Boys, NSYNC, 98 degrees, or what any other guy looks like for that matter.

*14. What does pms stand for?
-- Poke Monkey Shit

15. We may not be able to pee accurately all of the time, but at least we can stand up and go pee.
-- so?

*16. Just cause you think you're always right, doesn't mean that you don't have to apologize when you do something "wrong."
-- *blush* .... unless you really are right! dont expect it, dude.

*17. You expect us to say and do sweet things for you, but it would be nice if you did the same every once in a while.
-- this i can... understand. But what happend to all your MACHO ideals? all MUSHY already...

*18. We like to know that you love us. We can't always be spontaneous,so try to help us make the plans sometimes.

*19. Don't ask us to beat up another guy for you, cause you might just get what you wish for.

*20. Never kick us in the nuts"just to see what we would say"
-- I personally havent tried it.. any of you wanna volunteer? at least i asked!

*21. Never pretend like you are going to break up with us and laugh when we believe you.
-- :/

*22. Pamela Anderson's boobs aren't fake anymore, but we like yours better anyway. Size doesn't matter, except to idiots who don't want a relationship.
-- oh REALLY...... you can tell i still dont believe it.

*23. PMS is not an excuse.
-- for what, darling?

*24. If you want us to put the seat down when we're done, you should put it up when you're done.
-- i never saw an issue with the toilet seat really......

*25. Don't tell us how cute your ex-boyfriend was. That doesn't turn us on.

*26. And always remember: The way to a guys heart is through his stomach..... and maybe....oh never mind.
-- and??????

*27. And last but not least: We know you're not always right, but we'll pretend like you are anyway.
-- pretend.. tsk..... just to appear SNAG

So how? Is this list really a true reflection of what you guys WANT??

I'm turning Ah Lian

So I got my hair cut on Thursday.

Before Thursday, I couldnt wait to chop off some locks.
Today..

I'm turning Ah Lian.

So what defines Ah lians?

From TalkingCock.com's
The Coxford Singlish Dictionary
couldnt think of any better place to get the definitions

AH LIAN
A pet-name which literally means, "lotus flower". The female equivalent of an Ah Beng - an unsophisticated Chinese girl. Stereotypically dresses in neon colours, wears a huge ribbon perched on the top of her head, and carries a tiny basket.
See also: Ah Beng Ah Huay Chao Ah Beng/Ah Lian OR....

See this pic

Took abt half an hour to get this pic. I was trying for the Classic AhLian Frontal Doe-Eyed look (or something to THIS effect - hey, free publicity! couldnt think of anyone who embodied lian-ism @ its best.. its just the looks), but my sis (the phtographer) and I couldnt stop laughing. So we compromised on a side view (which still took a few shots :/ )

Did I succeed?

That was taken on sunday (yesterday) at Serene Center Macs.
Just for the purpose of showing the New Hairstyle

an awful candid photo, probably taken in when in motion. I was adjusting my tube (YES I'm NOT in the nude), heard my sis's phone "click".. And i turned my head in shock. So here we are, Doing The Chicken!

So ah, the second half of sunday, I trying to act ah lian.
I try lidat, lyk bery harD.
i din TrY @ de SSO concert in de Botanic Gardens cos I shy. (fake didnt think it was that fun yet)

Den wen 2 Adeline hse 4 din din.
SF & I by fruits 4 din din.
Eat v ShiOk!
GoT BBQ kebab (by deborah), ade made spag and mojito and bought Lew-Lian Ster-ru-Dal (durian strudel), pizza bought by luwyn and janet, salad by nick, kerms and carl got sushi, and chicken wings bought by daniel.. eat v de shiok!

So ah, we eat liao, then go upstairs masak masak ("play" in malay, usually in the context of children playing). Play what, I oso dunno. Just play.. with ourselves? (now now.. we ahlians are very innocent)
ARBO PLAY OWNSELF LA! - Adeline is big girl already, she got no doll for us to play. de boys had PS2 coz carl brought.
So Fun. *twist sign*

After that, i brought my ahlian demeanor to Jazz@Southbridge WOR.
that was most fun.
Dunno how to describe. TOO MANY JOKES.
Dunno why pple laugh. I farnee? or Dey TiNK I Farnee? Or I say Farnne Ting?
you seh leh?

Ahlian now has to worry abt why she isnt stardeeing 4 next week exam. Die liao wor.
Sure Fail!
Den can go becum Singapore Girl!

*tata* - ahlian trying to act ang-mor-pai

------
Just remembered this coz mentioned it to deb over msn:

i'm turning Ah Lian says:
i went blading last night right (past midnight)
then up till safra cc ... there was this merc doing a turn out .. and i was on blades going further than safra...
so when i passed the merc (that was in the mid of doing a 3 point turn) - i heard the fella in the car (probably saying to me) say "wanna ride"
.. LOL
i was blading in 3quarts and a teeshirt mind you
nite time, must be more appropriately dressed... (over day time, Bikini to absorb UV rays)

young punk kind la.. like us, drive mummy daddy's car

but when i heard that out of the merc.. i immediately thought abt "oie, xiao jie, yao sing-gar-pour passipot mai?"
coz a friend was telling us how his SUPER AHBENG friends pick up girls. and he experienced it first hand at changi village not too long ago.

Another variation would be:
"xiao jie, ai chomp chomp mai" - "chomp chomp" meaning "wanna fuck"/ "gimme a blowjob"... .. *exasperated look* I DunnO! but it was sure as hell funny.
(i have no clue why "chomp chomp" coz it reminded me of serangoon garden's hawker centre. maybe i got the spelling wrong :p or am i just hungry all the time)

Fishing

I read a post on fishing - trawling, and angling
and he mentioned that "[he is] an angler."

Maybe he was really talking abt fishing.....
Maybe he wasnt ;)

But I couldnt help but relate some bits to how males fish for females.
I quote because I agree.. and because i share the same ideas, some of my comments I add within the blockquote in [bold].

"i realized that most of them are trawlers. tats to say when they go fishing in the sea, they're not really particular about wat they catch... they just cast a net behind them, and then pick out all the squids or tiny fishes which they don't want."

How disgustingly dispicable...

"each one almost seems interchangable, and tat it doesn't matter."

If i were a salmon, I'd rather not bite the bait if i knew I wld just be an equal to a luohan. then again, a fish wouldnt want to be caught and scaled and devoured... :/

Its the pertinent question: why men and women think differently. why some men can place themselves in women's perspectives; and vice versa?

"...fish with a single line ... fishes swimming in the clear blue water. some prettier than others [i'm not so sure in my case]. some bigger than others [they ought to be]. but there'll always be only one tat i wanna hook up. [now thats not my case, so far] and tats why i use a line, and not a net. but then, its an issue when it doesn't bite, or when it bites but the line breaks. its frustrating. u really wonder if u should just cast a net instead."

I definitely am one who'd prefer the SINGLE LINE. - not that i wld like being single all my life.. nonononoonoooooo.
then again, my personal line has been failing me. maybe I shd change the bait?
and then the wise man says:

"姜太公钓鱼，愿者上钩。。。its interesting, this old chinese saying. he uses a silver needle with no bait. and only the fish tat would voluntarily be caught, would bite the needle."

or a "fish" dumb enough to bite on a NEEDLE that wld *poke*poke* and cause pain to it.

"sometimes, u just can't wait forever..."

"which is also true. i'd [hope] never wait forever. but some things, i always believed, are worth waiting for.

but how do u know which things just need time, and which are just simply impossible? tats always my dilemma. its even more true then, tat in this case, waiting is not an option, and tat a limit should be set. what determines this limit...[?] "

Current MSN Nick: The public is wonderfully tolerant. It forgives everything except genius. - Oscar Wilde

sucker for romance

In response to THIS

The very detailed Perfect guy survey
Created by Jazzbunny and taken 2590 times on bzoink!
His Look:
Name:	*doesnt quite matter as much*
Hair Colour:	natural shades
Hair Style (long, short, bowl cut, cornrows, etc) :	boyish
Eye colour:	brown/ grey/ blue?
Age:	2 or 4 or 5 years older than i am
Height:	abv 1.7 - nice wld be 175-185
Size:	as long as bigger framed than me
Body build:	strong, healthy, somewhat defined
Ethnicity:	*doesnt quite matter as much*
Glasses?	*doesnt quite matter as much*
Piercings?	not appealing
Chest hair?	nahz
big ol booty? or no?	NO
label	label?
His Mind
in school?	wit please
what does he want be/do when he grows up?	rich.
Can he speak another language, if yes what?	french, spanish, italian... south african?
Can he read music?	yup!
Can he read guitar tabs?	errmm... YUP!
Can he play guitar?	.. urrhh.. YUP!
piano?	wld be nice.
the drums?	i might as well say YES to everything
some other instrument?	uh huh...
Can he write music?	no need..
Will he write songs about you?	aaww.. sweet.
Will he write poems about you?	aaww.. sweep me off my feet!
Will he be artistic in some way?	ya.
Will he "blind you with science?"	NO.
His Style
Party hopper or stay at home?	inbetween
Straight A student of Drop out?	inbetween.. pref: leaning to As
Does he have a best friend?	shdnt everyone?
is it you?	heh. preferably
Is he straight or bi?	STRAIGHT LA
Religious? what type?	*doesnt quite matter as much*
Virgin? till marriage or till "the rite time"?	O_o
Should he be able to bake or cook?	wld be nice
Is it okay for him to have a lot of gal pals?	i wld (OUGHT TO) probably know them..
Out-going or shy?:	outgoing
Should he watch chick-flicks?:	haha.. why not
Would he be a smoker?:	no...
drinking?:	drink with me.. ya
cursing?	if its absolutely necessary. everyone needs to let out
does he play football(US)?	*doesnt quite matter as much*
soccer?	almost every guy plays soccer in sg
baseball?	*doesnt quite matter as much*
basketball?	hhmm.. :)
rugby?	*doesnt quite matter as much*
golf?	:D
does he drag race?	.. :/ think safty
does he have a "pimped up" ride?	i'm beginning not to understand
Can he surf?	wld be a "wow" factor
skateboard?	"wow" factor
snowboard?	"wow" factor
Would he have an accent?	*chuckle* if i think its adorable.
Anything else?	-_-
You and Him *last part!*
Does he kiss on the first date?:	*doesnt quite matter as much*
Where does he take you?	i am so for romance.
Does he pay?	for that kinda SPECIAL DATE, yes.
Would he lay under the stars with you and spout random philosophies?	haha.. not too much
Would he use endearments?	i guess.
Would you hold hands?	yup
Would you ever stay the nite at his place?	ya
Would he give you flowers/candy or a big expensive gift.	flowers, but B.E.G always welcome.
Would he walk you to your door at the end o the nite?	sending me home (esp where i live now) is enough
How would he propose?	in some innovative, romantic way.
Lastly, after you meet, get hitched, etc. What do u name your kids?	havent thought abt it
Create a Survey | Search Surveys | Go to bzoink!

comments... on previous entry

ADELINE:
so who is this mr right ?? and why wrong time... being a kaypo here... hahahahaha
CF:
i dont have any mr right.... so i figure, its still the wrong time
ADELINE:
ahahahahahahahha.... you're too fussy lah...
CF:
..whhhyyyyyyy ; i'm not fussy. you see my nick name... CHINCHYEBOCHUPFEE!!!!!ADELINE:
tons of guys are weaken at their knees just by the sight of you... [ YEAH RIGHT ] hahahahah
hmmmm......should be ChinChiaFussyFee or ChinAiDiamondFee....
CF:
i think thats a good one.. sheesh! i'm laughing at myself!
ADELINE:
will be interesting to see your future guy... since you're so fussy



ALOY:
hmmm...i didn't know i have a "i am desperate" gland hidden somewhere in my brain. must go and dig out the "i am desperate" gland....
CF:
i am being MEAN!!!! LOLOL
ALOY:
heh...that was funny...especially given ur situation...when almost every other guy that you meet has that "i am desperate for cf" written all over [ YEAH RIGHT ]


"hmmm...guys have a "i am a desperate gland" nestled in their brains.. and girls have a dormant "we exist only to break da guys heart" once da "i am desperate gland" is detected"



aah, enlightenment!
PHELI:
but i realised that everyone thinks that guys fall to their feet when they get to know you [ I think she meant "fall off their feet"/ "fall to their knees" ]
CF:
which is UNTRUE
PHELI:
maybe cause there are more guys that like you than those that don't

When Mr Right comes at the wrong time

Lets list down the The Sad Facts.

TIMING IS EVERYTHING, EVEN IN LOVE. AND WHEN YOU ARE NOT READY TO COMMIT, YOU COULD END UP REGRETTING IT.

----> the question, i ask myself, is "Am I Willing to Risk it.."

Am I willing to regret it, and stay uncommitted?

so far, it seems... I am. :D



Sometimes, timing rather than love decides who we end up being with - Or Without.
sad fact 1: and one can only spend the rest of one's life reflecting.. *stops short and reflects on choice of words......* guessing, rather, on who were the potentials.

But I think even if the love of one's life appears when one is single, one may not be in the right frame of mind to recognise him or her as such.
sad fact 2: I agree.. as the article reinforces further (sadfact 4).

And then love passes by.
sad fact 3: and we wont even know it? then again, i must also drive home this point- sometimes you just go beserk and think EVERY Single member of the opposite sex is THE ONE. now now, dont go there.. the realm of the Desperate Housewives (no need for me to mention men because sadfact 0 is that they were probably born with the "I am desperate" gland nestled somewhere in their brain - ok, i'm being mean. disregard this, even if i'm going to leave it posted. ;p )

... except that I was not looking for one. A boyfriend was all I could cope with then.
sad fact 4: erm... *scratch head* i dont know, seems vaguely familiar to me.... *pretends to think really hard*

I had a few painful relationships after that... served... as those rude wake up calls... realise the meaninglessness of my hedonistic high life.
eh.........
A) I dont think I fall in to the multiple failed relationship category. So far, my past *serious* relationships have taught me some important things abt myself among other things.
B) thus, my "rude wake up calls" are more of - dont muck ard with guys. they're not quite so worth it.
C) And I realise I enjoy my very "indulgent" lifestyle.
sad fact 5: I procrastinate 95% of the other "important" things in life.. like school for example.... but I cant say its entirely MEANINGLESS (?) can I. I'd be such a hypocrite if i do anyway.

Perhaps I also felt more urgency to find someone marriageable before my biological clock reached zero hour... One day, I'd wake up sick and alone when my fair weather friends flit away.
*needn't say anythin' - speaks for itself*
and more like... when I wake up, I'd be more beautiful, but its only because I committed suicide at age 25 because I wanted to be young and eligible FOR ETERNITY...... so I woke up in limbo land and faked my gutted (yeah, I gutted myself, as you gut a fish in prep for cooking - how COOOOL is THAT?!) self that everyone loved/loves me.

oh, but i think i have really good friends... :D

... should not ... settling for second best merely for the sake of getting hitched - only to regret it soon after...
sad fact 6: I agree.. so forver, therez always going to be someone better... DIE LA, Like that HOW? no need to settle... ;P

Hopefully, the best is not over but yet to be.
------------> ... is she from AC?


31 Jan, ST Life!
By Janice Wong



Current MSN Nick: FRIGGIN PISSED! NOW havta go to SCH!!! ARGH!! to settle DUMB stuff // addicted to Diamonds // yah what.. love is blind... *sigh*

bi or tri? *grin*

I've never been really interested in academics. - So I am Stupid.

oh, and i dont think, as you might have realised from the opening line, that the subject heading has anything to do with your current line of thoughts with regards to this entry... *looooserr*

That aside,

I still want to take up languages, but without the $$. Self-learning isnt much of an option. I am not presented with opportunities to practice even if I AM able to learn up to half-a-grade of the whatever-language with my oh-so-fantastic-stamina for self study.

See, i wanna learn german, french, spanish, thai, malay/indo, and of course GOOOOOD chinese, just to name a few.

You cant consider the current standards in SG Good, can you?
i.e.
- "hello, nihao ma?"
- "wo yao shuijiao"
- "eh, li ho bo?"
- "qu ni ma de!"
- "kaninabuchaocheebye"

what has the language disintergrated to?

You may argue that half of the examples there are not exactly Mandarin, BUT THEY STEM FROM THE SAME HISTORY, SAME LANGUAGE, SAME RULES.. So, yes, notice I used "chinese" and not "mandarin" :P

Even if i'm know, deep down, that I would be totally depressed with my progress (esp aft the 10yrs+++ of futile drilling by my school and often-very-useless-sans-a-couple-of-tuition teachers) I still would like to achieve a standard that would allow me to travel there and at least be able to say "i want to eat this, how much is it" in flowery chinese. After all, its one of the oldest and most eloquant language in the world, given if you know half of the 97632816exponential5538092873 characters that currently exist... *exasperated look*

------------------

Oh well.. a very unfruitful day. Its warm. Its stuffy. I'm bored. At home. I've been eating my stomach to 3 months pregnancy term. OoOoOooOOoo, can see the lil knob thingy at the side of my tummy.. You think thats the baby's foot kicking and protruding? oh wait, i think thats a lump of undigested gardenia -so-good-you-can-even-eat-it-on-its-own bread that was too good, i swallowed it as a mushed up ball of wheat and yeast and whatever.

arhghg.. i cant dance! My calf is injured STILL. Since sunday, so make that a whooping 6 days. :( nvm, i'll make up with sheesha tonight. Wont get the car thou, too pissed off. mum, she only uses MONEY as her way to wield her children.. Bitchy mother.. {i wonder how come I lack in that department. But like i said, I am a poor student. *gaahahaha*}

============
a special note:
[ to those who experienced a /ignore-like response on msn last night, sorry. it has everything to do with dear-mother-who-has-attitude-problems-like-a-14yr-old -read the 1st couple of paras.. *sighz*. In something VERY VERY CONDENSED:

Sometimes, no matter how un-argumentative your natural disposition is, you can still get pissed off really bad. the final verdict is that I wont be doing any birthday celebration for this 21st - but whats new? I've never celebrated my birthday as its always been so low key, it doesnt feel birthday-ish. Admittedly, i was looking forward to throwing a lil party (like its your 21st *weak smile*), but since i dont feel any sincereity from dear-mother in wanting to have anything to do with this -- infact she talks as if its gonna be me thieving all her precious money from her to throw a party -- when family teachings advocate family happness and support..

tsk tsk tsk *bitter* - she snaps at me and says something like "So What do you Want to Do for your Birthday? You Better Tell me..Write a Proposal" - duh. I think: "this if your family? not your office? like how many times must we reiterate it to you that you (with my dad ard or not), as a mother, shd NOT bring your office politics and wanna-fight attitude home?!

oOOo, i can bitch quite well, but I'm not feeling any better and infact I'm rather hurt still.. like I want to steal her money and be spendthrift. and, its not the first, nor second.. but one of the umteenth time I've realised that my mother doesnt know me quite so well, and even though she jolly well shows very obviously by body language that shez a normal confused mother who sees her kid grow up but she missed a whole chunk of the growing up and thus is so fcuking lost, YET she refuses to admit that (talk abt being defiant and childish @14, no, wait, multiply that a couple of times)... and insists that "I AM YOUR MOTHER" - in this case, do mothers really know best?

]
================

*sighz* - dont tell me "mothers are like that; give sometime.." blah and blah and blah.. i know all that talk. More often than not, I am the one dispensing those kinda words, ok. The whole issue starts from a Human Perspective, not a Family perspective. Its a very self-destructive personality trait that she has, that is more related to LIFE and all those ard her, than to just 1 of her daughters. so save the bull. it goes back way further into history that you would expect.

anyway, Skipped STATISTICS lecture. The poor sod of a lecturer - hez actually very nice.. just TOO NICE, even nice pple like me walk over him.. tsk tsk tsk.. Just pray that i pass my exam next may. :)

and oh, just wondering what happened to all the blogger post frills.. ie the font colours/ size and all that.. anyone know?

......... What I Dont Need Now.. is pple (read guys - notice not MEN -) offering to teach me mandarin for free... nothing is really free in this world right?


Current MSN Nick: Fuck 21 - [if you have anything to say, pls dont sound so stupid] skipping Statistics

What's Your Cinderella Story?

Some Quiz....

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
cf, in your Cinderella story, you'd get to Live Happily Ever After

------------ [[ *YAY* \(^-^)/ ]] ------------

When it comes to setting goals, you're not afraid to reach high. How else would you explain wanting to be the belle of the ball, winning the heart of the prince, showing those evil stepsisters who's boss, and ruling the kingdom? You're a girl with goals, and you go after them.

Let's face it: You're not one to sit around and wait for life to happen. If the driver has the night off, you'd probably proudly take the reigns of your pumpkin coach and drive yourself to the party. You're not the type to have a team of servants at your beck and call although that wouldn't be so horrible, now would it? But if good ol' Prince Charming has anything to say about it, you won't have to lift a finger when you move into the castle together — unless you want to. And with your varied interests and natural drive to get what you want, you're sure to be true royalty in no time. And that's a happily ever after worth sharing.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

ok, notice.. its only cinderella parties............

lingering topic - Boyfriends & Dance

I have been questioned many times over
- " since you're so into salsa, would you like a bf who can dance? "
- " would your bf be from the salsa scene? "
- " would you mind him dancing with other girls? Especially some couple dances.. "
- " what are other factors that would influence your decision to engage in a r/s? "
- " who would you want to meet? "

a) yes - I would like that, but doesnt matter if he doesnt. A dance is made more meaningful by the relationship shared, and it stands the same in the instance of Friends. If he doesnt, at least understand my "passion" for dance; and.. this sounds *roll eyes* silly, but if he dances, he only starts dancing coz of me..

b) probably not - those that start dancing on their own.. are.. hhmm.. let me put it in a way I told a friend when he asked: these guys carry a certain stigma, that they're there to learn just to pick up girls.

c) tough. - "Always treat others the way you want to be treated", thusly, respect their decisions, right? WRONG, i.e. if I were to be really stingy. BUT, I also want to dance, and I DEFINATELY know my limits.. so I just hope my (future) partner shares the same sentiments....

d) i'm fussy. too bad. *grumble*
[smarts] [bigger taller frame] [richer - to ensure my entrance to young taitai-hood] [handsome - my scoreboard is tough to pass. how often do you see me drooling?] [kindly] [honest] [considerate] [filial] [hardworking - to make up for my lack of it, haha] [healthy & fit - which most wld be, with NS or reservist. dont think I'd hook up with someone past reservist, now would I?] [share same morals and values, ideals and thoughts].. DUH, the usual.
~~~ Then you look back and examine my previous "choices"..
(for those who know history, I only beg to say - no one is that perfect.. ;p the guys are all wrong.. *LOL*.. okok, truth be, I probably suck at this)

e) friendster answer - And people ask me abt the relationship bits: Not so much serendipity, but since I'm a bit of a dreamy fairytale person.. romantic idealist... you can more or less make your guess. Doesnt mean I make a nice princess thou.. *evil laugh*

I cant really remember any other questions now at 3.30am.. and anything else you want clarified? - add to comments ;p